Growth mindset, Leadership and management

Characteristics of being a well-rounded leader – 2 years later

If you haven’t read my very first article posted on LinkedIn, you may go and read it first. In this new post I would like to go deeper into my experience at Saint-Cyr Coëtquidan and how even 2 years later it still impacts me.

That time in China …

After graduating from college in 2015, I went to China for an internship.  I have always been adventurous in terms of travelling and going to new places so no worries on that side. However, I had to go through a pretty stressful moment while I was living China-alone. My family and friends were mostly all in France. Fortunately I had 2 new close friends who were here during that period.

During that time, it never occurred to me that I should have thought about everything I had learned about 1 year before: stressing out, and “screaming” (not literally, but inside my head), won’t get you anywhere. Confronting the issue head front with the support of others was the way to go. As a believer of God, I deeply believe that God created an opportunity for me to get out of that dangerous “stress zone”.After that period I also met one of my mentors through LinkedIn.

Leadership isn’t innate for everyone

Speaking of mentors, let’s talk a bit about leadership. This leadership and teamwork training program I did, truly reflects the skills and strengths a leader should have. Later, I have seen and heard about different kinds of managers. However, I realised that the best ones, the ones who can be considered as leaders could:

  • Communicate efficiently with others in the good and the bad
  • Appreciate others’ efforts by telling them or rewarding them
  • Help others to improve and learn in their field
  • Listen to what others have to say and then rightfully judge if it should be taking into account or not

I have also learned a new one from one of my managers: ask questions. Be curious about what your team members are doing, how they are doing, what are their inspirations and doubts. This also can initiate conversations and get things clearer.

Blocked in an elevator …

Me, and my colleague decided to go downstairs to get a snack. We took the elevator even though it was acting weird: not closing the doors right away, and other quirky things.

About a minute after we got into the elevator, it closes the doors goes down very slowly and then stops at the ground floor (fortunately).

We knew we were blocked but while I would generally get anxious about if I am going to live or not, I had already experienced a similar experience during my Army training program at Saint-Cyr Coëtquidan.

I was so chilled and relaxed while my colleague was (hiding it but …) stressing out and clicking on all the buttons. I just laughed and clicked on the bell button. My colleague started laughing too and 15 mn later the security agents got us out.

Have you every experienced something in your life that helped you even 1, 2, 10 years later ?


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